A toxic co-parenting relationship can be one of the most difficult relationships to navigate. It’s not uncommon for parents to have a toxic co-parenting relationship, but finding ways to cope with it is important. Here are some quotes that illustrate just how hard it can be.
Toxic Co Parenting Quotes
“People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get angry about what happened to them. They need to grieve over the fact that they never had the parental love they yearned for. They need to stop diminishing or discounting the damage that was done to them.”
“Co-parenting is never about asking permission. It is about discussing the needs and wants of your child and deciding what is best.”
“All of us develop our expectations about how people will treat us based on our relationships with our parents”
“Just as verbally and physically abused children internalize blame, so do incest victims. However, in incest, the blame is compounded by the shame. The belief that ‘it’s all my fault’ is never more intense than with the incest victim. This belief fosters strong feelings of self-loathing and shame. In addition to having somehow to cope with the actual incest, the victim must now guard against being caught and exposed as a ‘dirty, disgusting’ person”
“Children who are not encouraged to do, to try, to explore, to master, and to risk failure, often feel helpless and inadequate. Over-controlled by anxious, fearful parents, these children often become anxious and fearful themselves. This makes it difficult for them to mature. Many never outgrow the need for ongoing parental guidance and control. As a result, their parents continue to invade, manipulate, and frequently dominate their lives.”
“We both realise that we’re parents and we’re in it for our kid, and that’s made it really easy.”– Pete Wentz
“Co-parenting is not a competition between two homes. It is a collaboration of parents who are doing what is best for the children.”
“Many toxic parents compare one sibling unfavorably with another to make the target child feel that he’s not doing enough to gain parental affection. This motivates the child to do whatever the parents want in order to regain their favor. This divide-and-conquer technique is often unleashed against children who become a little too independent, threatening the balance of the family system.”
“But at the end of the day, we’ve got a great kid who’s got two parents who love him very much. And we’re finding a way to navigate this while still remaining friends and still being kind to one another.”– Chris Pratt
“In families like Fred’s, much of a child’s identity and his illusions of safety depend on feeling enmeshed. He develops a need to be a part of other people and to have them be a part of him. He can’t stand the thought of being cast out. This need for enmeshment carries right into adult relationships.”
“What makes a controlling parent so insidious is that the domination usually comes in the guise of concern. Phrases such as, “this is for your own good,” “I’m only doing this for you,” and, “only because I love you so much,” all mean the same thing: “I’m doing this because I’m so afraid of losing you that I’m willing to make you miserable.”
“Successful adult relationships, whether between lovers or friends, require a significant degree of vulnerability, trust, and openness.”
“A family is a small world where all differences can be settled if we learn to accept and compromise.”
These quotes can motivate you to be there for your children as a family.
“Good parenting allows children to experience the best things in their childhood that they must encounter in their lives.”
“You can learn, but you’ve got to give yourself time to pick up the basics, to practice, and maybe even to fail once or twice.”
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“Families are like branches on a tree. Though we grow in different directions, our roots will always remain together as one.”
“Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about. Loving behaviour doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behaviour nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.”
Co-parenting becomes successful when your children feel like you and your partner are always there for them.
“Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to the thoughts and actions of the toxic parents. They promote fusion, a blurring of personal boundaries, a welding together of family members. On an unconscious level, it is hard for family members to know where one ends and another begins. In their efforts to be close, they often suffocate one another’s individuality.”
You are not a bad mother! I’m sure all mothers neglect their kids and only claim them at tax time.
“Co-parenting lets children experience the happiest moments of life, they truly deserve.”
“You are learning to trust your own perception of reality. You will discover that even when your parents don’t agree with you or don’t approve of what you’re doing, you will be able to tolerate the anxiety because you don’t need their validation anymore. You are becoming self-defined.”
Toxic Co Parenting Quotes
“At the end of the day, the positive involvement of the parents is the most overwhelming key to children’s success.”
“When you go for co-parenting, always keep in mind that you are not managing an inconvenience. You are raising another human being.”
“We are both totally committed to raising our son and being in love with our son… It’s a concept that’s fairly new, particularly in the psychology of raising a child in a divorce. And the idea is, it’s really not the child’s fault that you got divorced. It’s your fault, and therefore, it should not be the child’s problem to go back and forth between two different homes.” – Josh Lucas on the “bird nesting” co-parenting arrangement.
“Let the world see that the wholeness of a family does not always have to equate to happiness in life.”
Let me make sure that I’m understanding this correctly. You’re telling everyone that your ex ‘walked out on you and the kids’ and you plan on telling that same story to your kids when they’re older. But you intend on leaving out the part where you actually paid a lawyer to keep him from getting more overnights with his children. That makes all kinds of narcissistic sense!
“There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one.”
“The family drama may look and sound different from generation to generation, but all toxic patterns are remarkably similar in their outcome: pain and suffering.”
“Co-dependent was used interchangeably with the term enabler—someone whose life was out of control because he or she was taking responsibility for “saving” a chemically dependent person. But in the past few years the definition of co-dependency has expanded to include all people who victimize themselves in the process of rescuing and being responsible for any compulsive, addicted, abusive, or excessively dependent person.”
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“Perfectionist parents seem to operate under the illusion that if they can just get their children to be perfect, they will be a perfect family. They put the burden of stability on the child to avoid facing the fact that they, as parents, cannot provide it. The child fails and becomes the scapegoat for family problems. Once again, the child is saddled with the blame.”
“Co-parenting will allow us to know about the shortcomings and troubles we can fix right now.”
“Children need parents, not a part-time visitor with a chequebook.”
You’re a narcissistic wife; You’re now narcissistic ex-wife; You’re also a narcissist mother, daughter, sister, and human being. You’ll never admit this fact because you’ll never realize it. And that’s because you’re a narcissist.
“Co-parenting can make a positive difference in the lives of children. Speak about the co-parent with integrity and respect.”
“In order to be in your kids’ memories tomorrow, you must be in their lives today.”
“In this way she perpetuated the pain she had experienced as a child. Not unexpectedly, her enormous accumulated rage had to find a way out, but since she was afraid to express it directly, her body and her moods expressed it for her: in the form of headaches, a knotted-up stomach, and depression.”
“We can only speculate why, but physically abusive parents seem to share certain characteristics. First, they have an appalling lack of impulse control.”
“Effective parenting has nothing to do with pointing out faults, and everything to do with working together for solutions.”
“The best security blanket a kid can have is parents who will always respect each other.”
“I’m very fortunate because we’re committed to co-parenting our children together.” – Elle Macpherson
“When you tell your kid that you hate the other parent, you are basically telling them that you hate half of who they are.”
“Co-parenting is a way to grab responsibilities and raising your children to be better people.”
“I also believe that forgiveness is appropriate only when parents do something to earn it. Toxic parents, especially the more abusive ones, need to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and show a willingness to make amends. If you unilaterally absolve parents who continue to treat you badly, who deny much of your reality and feelings, and who continue to project blame onto you, you may seriously impede the emotional work you need to do.”
“Children need and deserve the care, love, and support of both parents.”
“As you gain more control over your past and present relationship with your parents, you will discover that your other relationships, especially your relationship with yourself, will improve dramatically. You will have the freedom, perhaps for the first time, to enjoy your own life.”
“Whether adult children of toxic parents were beaten when little or left alone too much, sexually abused or treated like fools, overprotected or overburdened by guilt, they almost all suffer surprisingly similar symptoms: damaged self-esteem, leading to self-destructive behavior. In one way or another, they almost all feel worthless, unlovable, and inadequate.”
“As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you.”
“I have pictures up of me and Wiz in [our son’s] room so he can always come in and see us being happy together. We try to have family days with him, even though we’re not together. Kids want to see their parents together, and if you can’t be together in a relationship, you’ve got to come together as friends for your baby.” – Amber Rose
Dear Deadbeat Dads, if you don’t spend any time with your kids when they’re young, don’t be surprised when they don’t want to spend any time with you when they are old enough to see what kind parent you are.
The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them. –Steve Maraboli
Toxic Parenting Quotes
Anyone can have a child and call themselves parents. A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.
“Your first obligation as a parent is not to bring chaos into the lives of your children.”
“At the end of the day, you’ve got to be a little selfless. You have to say ‘It’s not about us. This didn’t work out quite how we wanted it to, but look at the amazing blessing that we have in these wonderful children.’ So you kinda put everything else to the side and really focus.” – Nick Cannon
“Enmeshment creates almost total dependence on approval and validation from outside yourself. Lovers, bosses, friends, even strangers become the stand-in for parents. Adults like Kim who were raised in families where there was no permission to be an individual frequently become approval junkies, constantly seeking their next fix.”
“Co-parenting is an example of how we can achieve happiness for all children and their parents.”
“Co-parenting can allow us to fulfil our wishes while making sure the children are loved and taken care of.”
“I find co-parenting really easy. Scott and I communicate all the time. You have to keep discussing what’s going on because as the children grow older, the rules need to be renegotiated.” – Kourtney Kardashian
Co-parenting with a psychopath is a special kind of hell.
“Instead of promoting healthy development, they unconsciously undermine it, often with the belief that they are acting in their child’s best interest.”
“Your children need your presence more than they need your presents.”
Here are a few popular co-parenting quotes that will show you that you are not alone.
“One of the best things in life is to know you can change the family standards through time.”
“Children soak up both verbal and nonverbal messages like sponges—indiscriminately. They listen to their parents, they watch their parents, and they imitate their parents’ behavior. Because they have little frame of reference outside the family, the things they learn at home about themselves and others become universal truths engraved deeply in their minds.”
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“We do bedtime every day. We felt like as much togetherness as possible would be ideal, and fortunately, we really love each other and are best friends, and so that works.” – Sienna Miller
“Denial is the lid on our emotional pressure cooker: the longer we leave it on, the more pressure we build up. Sooner or later, that pressure is bound to pop the lid, and we have an emotional crisis.”
“Once you understand what love is, you may come to the realization that your parents couldn’t or didn’t know how to be loving. This is one of the saddest truths you will ever have to accept. But when you clearly define and acknowledge your parents’ limitations, and the losses you suffered because of them, you open a door in your life for people who will love you the way you deserve to be loved—the real way.”
“We decided as a family it was the right decision for Flynn, so Orlando and I both relocated, and we live five minutes from each other… Everything revolves around my son and his welfare.” – Miranda Kerr
“I’m really fortunate because my ex and I are very good friends and I talk to him every day. Our daughter is growing up, seeing two people who care about each other. We may not be a traditional family on paper, but we are a family, and I tell her that families come in all shapes and sizes, but [a family is] love, and I see her really flourishing because she sees two people treating each other with respect.” – Angela Kinsey
“Thumbs up for step-parents and parents who co-parent! Kids need to feel loved and safe in both homes.”
Toxic co-parenting quotes are often used to describe the relationship between parents who have a history of being toxic with one another. The term is typically associated with divorced couples, but it can also apply to families that were never married or ones where there was infidelity during the marriage. It’s not uncommon for this type of behavior to continue after divorce and into their children’s lives in order to get back at each other.
If you’re struggling as a parent because your spouse has been abusive, we want you to know that you deserve better than what they’ve given you and we will support you 100%. You deserve love from someone who loves both of your kids just as much as they do themselves.
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